Male dominance in Islam

Author: Abu Hena Muhammad Rafique

Question no 7: Why women should be dominated by men? Domestic abuse (as many people think or sometime happen).
Answer:
As some reasons already we got from the answer of the question no 3 (Why son gets double than the daughter?), we need more reasons for being leader or guardian:
The Creator, when creating created such process which needed the male remain up, become active and play the role of giver. On the other hand, as Allaah wanted the female remain passive and play the role of recipient and protector of the males semen to turn into foetus and then throughout the development and finally reaching the stage of birth, the female has to undergo so many stages to become mother and rearing the baby with feeding etc. makes her so delicate that she needs affectionate care by the loving male (husband). Not only this, she needs security by the physically stronger husband. All these need him to be the leader and earn and spend for her (as said in the above mentioned verse.)
Another point must be remembered in this regard: during the process of giving and receiving the seeds of the progeny many other functions are necessary to achieve the final goal and so, all the time the husband needs be applying enthusiasm, strength and energy.
Then she, the wife needs comfort, care, medicine, food etc which, if provided by the husband then the whole life of the couple, with children becomes peaceful and happy. Thus husband’s leadership and guardianship is such a blessing which has no alternative.
This is the system, made by the Creator for the procurement of His creation and He Himself knows His work; anybody else may not know its justification. But this leadership, is a responsibility, if done properly (as Islam taught the leader’s responsibility), will bring all round peace and success. If the polytheist or atheist thinks that he is wiser or more just or more considerate than the Merciful Creator or if anybody heeds to any argument challenging the Creator, he or she has to roam about the endless wilderment.
We, the spontaneous servants of Allaah (male and female) are, really satisfied with His system and do our duty as guardians and queens of the house consecutively and are alert in maintaining peace and prosperity. Both of us are cautious about our respective duties and cooperate with one another as mutually the closest friend after the parents. In weal and woe we are mutual trustworthy friends. As before marriage parents are responsible and supervisors and protectors of the children’s chastity, similarly after marriage, husband becomes the leader or custodian, especially of the wife or wives and makes such arrangements, as to remain, the wife or wives really protected.
Thus leadership of husband, as entrusted by Merciful Allaah, is a bliss for believers, not curse as thought by a non- believer.
As regards domestic abuse (by siblings or parents, or mothers of the husbads) is likely to happen in a family where there is no fear of Allaah or no any accountability. But Qu’aanic injunctions are for obedient servants, who do away with all the behaviours and practices opposed to Allaah’s wish. So, there comes no question of family abuse.
Yes, there are families, who are by name Muslims, by doing certain rituals). They, either do not know complete Islam, nor are willing to be 100% Muslims in obeying Allaah in all affairs of life.
Let us be complete Muslims and make our families balanced, maintaining the Rasoo’ls practices: parents, husbands, doing their respective duties (especially in their old age), as taught by Rasoolullah sm. and his associates, known through their practices and through traditions, (if not through direct narrations). So, if we, all do our duty properly, we may rightly expect that duty to us also will be done, when need comes.